Love is not just what you feel for one particular person — it is a way of being in the world. People who genuinely love develop a capacity for warmth, care, and engagement that extends beyond any single relationship. If you can only love one person, Fromm argues, you may not truly love at all.
Quote by Erich Fromm: “Love is not primarily a relationship to a specific person; it is an attitude, an orientation of character.”
Love is not primarily a relationship to a specific person; it is an attitude, an orientation of character.
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Historical Context
Fromm published The Art of Loving in 1956, a period when postwar affluence in the United States and Western Europe was raising expectations about personal happiness and romantic fulfillment. He argued that consumer society's approach to love — as something to find rather than to practice — was generating widespread loneliness.
About the Author
German-American psychoanalyst and humanist philosopher whose 1956 work The Art of Loving argued that love is a skill requiring knowledge, effort, and discipline, not simply a feeling that happens to people. His work blended psychoanalysis with social criticism and existentialist philosophy.
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